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Grief And Loss

       
"Grief actually stems from a change in our relationship with our self."
"Grief and loss are what each individual person thinks and believes they are."
"If grieving is unlimited, unhealthy, and unmeaningful, it can become a serious problem and an impediment to the normal conduct, flow and progress of life."

Grief, Grieving and Loss

Grieving is a natural response to the experience of loss and separation.


The nature and duration of grieving is strictly an individual matter. Everyone grieves in somewhat different ways, and grieving serves somewhat different purposes from one person to another. That is because the experience of loss has different meanings to different people.


Grief is triggered by a change in our relationship with someone, something, or some place, usually by death, illness, addiction or physical or mental separation, but it actually stems from a change in our relationship with our self. When the significance to us of a changed relationship is one of loss-when it feels to us that something or someone important, essential, or necessary is missing from our life-then grieving is the natural result and there is a sense of inner separation or division.


With the sense that something has become divided within yourself, it can feel as if you aren't whole any more, as if something in your subjective universe is missing. This causes an unhealthy relationship with yourself, simply because your world no longer seems whole. When your world isn't whole, it's because you don't feel whole. When grieving is resolved, your sense of wholeness will be restored-even if the one who was lost or missing doesn't do anything!


People grieve in accordance with their cultural, religious, and spiritual ideas about the place and purpose of grief: they grieve along the lines of their beliefs about loss and connection. Thus grieving is the result of our personal and subjective perception and experience: grief and loss are what each individual person thinks and believes they are.


When Grieving Interferes with a Healthy, Complete Life

When grieving persists for a protracted period of time or when it is exceptionally strong and intense, it can interfere with important aspects of a person's life. Many world religions prescribe exact time frames and other parameters for grieving in order to prevent this problem. However, a growing number of the world's people may no longer be subject to the prescriptions of strict or fundamental cultures with specific boundaries around grieving. For a great many of us there are no standards, norms, parameters, limits, or familiar rituals for grieving. If grieving is unlimited, unhealthy, and unmeaningful, it can become a serious problem and an impediment to the normal conduct, flow and progress of life.


When grieving goes on for so long that it prevents a person from achieving satisfaction and fulfillment in important areas of life, when it goes on in such a way that normal functioning doesn't return in a reasonable period of time, or when the experience of loss leaves behind enduring emotional or behavioral problems or a weakened or disordered condition of mental or physical health, then the subconscious mind has developed a negative habit in order to make sense of and accommodate to the experience of loss. The death or other loss is interfering with your ability to live a purposeful, healthy, satisfying, or full and complete life.


Grieving, Loss and Tranceformation

Negative habits of grieving can be rapidly cleared using the tools and processes of Tranceformation, exactly as with any other habit.


With Tranceformation, unhealthy and unhelpful habits of mind around loss and grieving are pinpointed and cleared; the sense of loss is resolved in a deeply personal and meaningful way: you attain a new and healthful balance in mind, body and spirit. When the transformation of the loss experience is complete, you will have an improved attitude toward your changed relationship with the person, place, or animal companion that is no longer physically or emotionally present for you; you will have discovered significant and positive meaning in the experience. The grieving will be resolved.


When you have cleared a negative habit around losing a familiar sense of connection with someone you care about, the result can be a renewed sense of connection with that person, an appreciation of the time you had together, a new comprehension of the significance of your relationship with that person, and any number of unique insights that are possible for only you. Your feelings about what once was a sense of loss will be physically, mentally and spiritually (1) (2) balanced, healthy, and energizing. You will feel whole again. There will be peace.


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