"Grief actually stems from a change in our relationship with our self."
"Grief and loss are what each individual person thinks and believes they are."
"If grieving is unlimited, unhealthy, and unmeaningful, it can become a
serious problem and an impediment to the normal conduct, flow and progress of
life."
Grief, Grieving and Loss
Grieving is a natural response to the experience of loss and separation.
The nature and duration of grieving is strictly an individual matter. Everyone grieves
in somewhat different ways, and grieving serves somewhat different purposes from
one person to another. That is because the experience of loss has different meanings
to different people.
Grief is triggered by a change in our relationship with someone, something, or some
place, usually by death, illness, addiction or physical or mental separation, but
it actually stems from a change in our relationship with our self. When the significance
to us of a changed relationship is one of loss-when it feels to us that something
or someone important, essential, or necessary is missing from our life-then grieving
is the natural result and there is a sense of inner separation or division.
With the sense that something has become divided within yourself, it can feel as
if you aren't whole any more, as if something in your subjective universe is missing.
This causes an unhealthy relationship with yourself, simply because your world no
longer seems whole. When your world isn't whole, it's because you don't feel whole.
When grieving is resolved, your sense of wholeness will be restored-even if the
one who was lost or missing doesn't do anything!
People grieve in accordance with their cultural, religious, and spiritual ideas
about the place and purpose of grief: they grieve along the lines of their beliefs
about loss and connection. Thus grieving is the result of our personal and subjective
perception and experience: grief and loss are what each individual person thinks
and believes they are.
When Grieving Interferes with a Healthy,
Complete Life
When grieving persists for a protracted period of time or when it is exceptionally
strong and intense, it can interfere with important aspects of a person's life.
Many world religions prescribe exact time frames and other parameters for grieving
in order to prevent this problem. However, a growing number of the world's people
may no longer be subject to the prescriptions of strict or fundamental cultures
with specific boundaries around grieving. For a great many of us there are no standards,
norms, parameters, limits, or familiar rituals for grieving. If grieving is unlimited,
unhealthy, and unmeaningful, it can become a serious problem and an impediment to
the normal conduct, flow and progress of life.
When grieving goes on for so long that it prevents a person from achieving satisfaction
and fulfillment in important areas of life, when it goes on in such a way that normal
functioning doesn't return in a reasonable period of time, or when the experience
of loss leaves behind enduring emotional or behavioral problems or a weakened or
disordered condition of mental or physical health, then the subconscious mind has
developed a negative habit in order to make sense of and accommodate to the experience
of loss. The death or other loss is interfering with your ability to live a purposeful,
healthy, satisfying, or full and complete life.
Grieving, Loss and Tranceformation
Negative habits of grieving can be rapidly cleared using the tools and processes
of Tranceformation, exactly as with any other habit.
With Tranceformation, unhealthy and unhelpful habits of mind around loss and grieving
are pinpointed and cleared; the sense of loss is resolved in a deeply personal and
meaningful way: you attain a new and healthful balance in mind, body and spirit.
When the transformation of the loss experience is complete, you will have an improved
attitude toward your changed relationship with the person, place, or animal companion
that is no longer physically or emotionally present for you; you will have discovered
significant and positive meaning in the experience. The grieving will be resolved.
When you have cleared a negative habit around losing a familiar sense of connection
with someone you care about, the result can be a renewed sense of connection with
that person, an appreciation of the time you had together, a new comprehension of
the significance of your relationship with that person, and any number of unique
insights that are possible for only you. Your feelings about what once was a sense
of loss will be physically, mentally and spiritually (1) (2) balanced, healthy, and energizing.
You will feel whole again. There will be peace.
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